What is better, to love or to be loved? This is a question that is worthy of contemplation.
For the Sufi, the answer is to love. Because, if you love others, you will be loved by them in return. True lovers are always loved. The aim of the Sufi is to be accepted as a lover by the Beloved, that is, by God.
In a teaching by Attar, a Sufi saint meets a woman at the seashore and asks her, “What is the end of love?” She answers, “O simpleton, love has no end.” He asks, “Why?” And she replies, “Because the Beloved has no end.”
Excerpt From: “Essential Sufism” by Robert Frager